Working Together With My Mom's

I always love when I play with my parents. Since they are very busy during working days, so we use to play on Saturday. There are more fun if both my parents playing with me all day. What should you expect as a toddler,,,, playing is my world.

Last Saturday, my Mom's got sick, so she did not go to work. I was very worry for her, she look pale and tired. My Mom asked me if I could play with her while she was at home. It very please to me because I have my Mom play with me.

"Working together with my Mom's"

Sunday in the family
by Janne Marie

Following lines are addressed to those who need a little color in the life of the couple, who want to find the festive atmosphere of the beginning, who want to escape from the routine on Sundays and want to try something else. Neuro-linguistic programming is a very interesting, saying that doing the same thing, you get the same result. Change occurs when you do something else than before. Definition of frustration is to do the same things and expect different results.

Many people complain that the husband or wife is, for years, in a certain way. These people should ask themselves what to do, so some of their behavior to be different. What can change in attitude to each? It's sort of negotiation and is recommended to start with small things that can be done without too much effort for each of the partners of the couple.

It is important to know that it existed in a couple, he and their design, which we call the relationship of the couple. An essential element of functionality that couple relationships is the life that is manifest. By this we mean a residence, home, where we are together, but what We call the framework and create psychological space for each couple as their relationship. With these elements, sometimes it is enough just to change the space and, leaving the routine, we can achieve spectacular results.

Without financial and psychological costs high, we can try over the weekend that's going or why not, and during the week, a change of environment in two, with one essential rule: every quarter of an hour spent together each of the other two to give something, a gesture, a kiss, a melon ice cream, a star, a handshake, a gesture of tenderness ... Or more, depending on how rich is each within his soul.

Do many couples are aware of the joy of being together in one weekend? To spend holidays together in an extraordinarily pleasant, without millions to spend, without drive for hours. You can choose to start the morning at 10.00 and never drink coffee at home in the kitchen. There are terraces quiet and clean, with palm trees and swings, on Sunday mornings when regular customers of these places are asleep, after reveling in the night.

He will start the morning swinging in a rocking chair could be the first step towards a day when you can float. After coffee, you can take a stroll in a little park and, guaranteed, this equates to one in the Garden of Eden. Tell are flourished, their smell is the divine right, the roses have bloomed and you can stroll hand, admirandu them. Sit on a bench, smelling Tell and taking you by the hand. You, more mature this time to renew your vows of love. You look at kids who run and remember those moments when your children were the same age, their smile, happiness, joy ... Or you can now build a future where your child to run the little park.

In gardens and parks miracles happen every Sunday. You can then pass through the market to buy strawberries, which was to enjoy the afternoon together. Then, towards evening, out of the house, no matter how housework should be, to admire the musical fountains, even an air of celebration. Or take a romantic walk. You can kiss as a teenager, when all dreams were possible. Somewhere, in a park after 22.00, all will have an unreal beauty. All is for you two. Do you think that would be a shame that so much beauty to be wasted?

Learn How to Build Self Esteem and Encourage Your Child
By Jenny Gandhi

Like a bud to a flower that blossoms to share its fragrance with the world, a child is as delicate. And the nurturing shapes his future where he would either stand tall or cow down.

Shaping a child is like shaping clay, you have to start from the beginning and work your way to the end with extreme caution but with gentle and loving hands. However unlike clay, you don't get a second chance with a child. You can put all the clay back together and start again but with a child, what is done is done. Hence it's even more caution with care.

Building a child's esteem is no small play; it makes your black hair grey, steals away years of your life and still will not look done. Hence you have to learn how to build self esteem and encourage your child from the beginning. After all parenting begins from babyhood.

Small instance could leave large impact on your child's mind. Reason why you should not overlook something that went wrong as petty. If another child pushed your kid, everyone laughed and you told your son to forget it, that's the first wrong step. Of course it's no eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth syndrome that you have to imbibe. But you have to teach your child to stand up for himself. Don't let your child crumble inside. Tell him to ask the child why is he hitting him or complain to the nearest adult he can reach.

Most of all before you preach to a child you have to be a living example. If you go around bullying people, your kids will do the same. If you are a coward yourself and do not stand up to situations, do not expect your child not to follow you. Children are like monkeys, they ape every action. From how you eat to how you handle situations.

Building self esteem begins at home. Small assertive acts make a positive impact on your child. Below are a few ways to learn how to build self esteem and encourage your child

• Praise your child for finishing homework
  
• Appreciate him for switching off the lights
  
• Thank him for doing the dishes or keeping his room tidy
  
• Give him a hug every time he does well in a test
  
• Reward him for not procrastinating
  
• Cook his favourite dish every time he keeps his word
  
• Take him to the movies or the place that they like for doing well in test or for coming home in time after play.

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Amazingly,,,I Actually had a Haircut

Never though before that I have to haircut by someone else besides my Dad... He usually cut my hair while I was sleep lately night or even early morning. It took my Dad more than hour just just to cut my hair. My Dad did that since I was a little baby...of course I just a toddler right now, but I mean that my Dad begin to haircut me since I was 6 months old...

I always scared to go to the barber or salon to have haircut, the "tools" that can "loose"(cut) the hair make me worry. Imagine the hair fell from the head,,, it always make me nervous to see that things. There were an experience while my Dad took me to his barber shop,,, stood like a fool and all can I do was asked my my Dad when we can go home...

Today,,, is a big story for me, and my parents. Somehow, I didn't refuse when my Mom asked me to go to salon and get haircut. It was a major experience to me and I don't think I can do that any more in the future. You can imagine, I just sit and almost not breath while the electric things cut my hair... My mom cheer me up ... she said that I have to keep my promise to her about to go to saloon to get haircut. That's it....why should I have to promised her such a thing...

Anyway.... it is good to have a nice hair style.., no matter you avoid your haircut,,,, you shoul go for it... (of course to all toddler friends,,,)

I will give you a tips from a toddler stylist;

As a stylist, the toddler haircut is not unfamiliar to me. They come in regularly and there many ways the experience can go, ranging from both good and very bad extremes. I have even written before about when to just say no to the toddler haircut. There really are times when it just isn't worth it. If your child is screaming and terrified this is one of those times to stop. Normally I refuse to give into tantrums, but listen people, we use sharp instruments. Safety is an issue. A big issue. I have been holding the clippers away from a child waiting for him to stop flailing, the child then flailed into my clippers and ended up bleeding. That being said, there are a few other things I would like to recommend to help you and your child get the best toddler haircut experience possible.

Do NOT come when your child is tired. Besides just being cranky and irritable about the haircut it causes another danger issue. A moving target is a dangerous target, tired children bob their heads and, on a occasion, nearly fall out of the chair. I have had to grab more then one child as they tumble to the floor completely asleep. You try to safely grab a child while you have laser sharpened scissors in your hand. If your child starts to fall asleep I will send you home. I reserve the right to safely cut your child's hair.

Please, please comb your children's hair. I am going to charge you extra to comb out matted hair. It takes a long time to get those out. By the time I do, your child is now cranky and irritated with me for hurting them, because it does hurt, and because they have already been sitting for a long time. Avoid heartache and comb your child's hair every day.

If your child has a sensory issue You Need To Tell Me. I can not stress this enough. Lots of children have mild Autism or sensory issues that touching makes worse. I understand that you may not feel comfortable going around and broadcasting this. You can discreetly tell me, I will not make a big deal about it. I will make adjustments for it. It will change the way I shampoo as well as the way I go about preforming the toddler haircut as well as just making a hastier effort so the child doesn't have to endure a prolonged experience. I routinely touch kids to keep them in the chair, lift their chin, or keep their head straight. If I know you child will suffer from this I can avoid it. I can do nothing if I don't know.

A lot of things can make a toddler haircut go better for you, your child and for me. Please remember how dangerous a salon is. It is not a place to play or a place let your guard down. A little preparation is going to go a long way.

source: What to expect

Other tips for parents:

When I had kids, I expected to change diapers, have midnight feedings and potty train. But it's what I didn't account for that really challenged me: the haircuts.

Stay away?

For Will's first few -- or six -- haircuts, I stayed as far away as possible. I paid for the cuts but sent my mother or my husband along. It was beyond my willingness. Then everyone else got busy. If he needed a cut, it needed to be me taking him. So I waited. And waited some more.

Unfortunately, the six-month rule doesn't work for little boys. He looked all ... messy. Then I thought about growing it long, but it didn't suit him.

Ultimately though, I was simply delaying the inevitable. Eventually, I really would have to buck up and take my own son for that haircut. I am the mommy, afterall. Still, I remember when my stepson was Will's age. Haircuts were major to-dos. He would scream and cry and whine. Bad. Experience.

Doing the deed

Finally, I caved and went -- with my mother -- for the much awaited haircut. Sometimes, just swallowing the worries and fear and just going helps. You kind of have to turn your worries off, hard as it may sound.

You know what? Ultimately, it wasn't that bad. At all. Apparently with his prior experience and all of my talking about the impending cut, he was ready and willing to sit still while the barber snipped, buzzed and tweaked his new shorter 'do. No tears, whines or otherwise. Just my happy boy getting a cool new 'do. And now, I am hooked. His cut transformed him from my little toddler into a little boy ready for preschool.

Planning a good haircut trip

Are you dreading your toddler's hair cutting? Fear not. Here are some simple tips to help make your trip to the beauty parlor a success.

1. Prepare them: One of the best things you can do is to talk with your child about what happens when they get their haircut. That way the scissors, clippers and razors won't be a surprise -- or scary -- to the littler people. Plus, if it's not a surprise, then they are less likely to freak about it.

2. Don't be afraid to bribe: There is a reason that little kids get lollypops after a trip to the beauty salon. It's bribery. The good kind of bribery that gets little boys and girls to behave and do as they are supposed to. See? Sometimes bribery is a good thing!

3. Stand firm with boundaries: Whatever rules of behavior you have need to apply everywhere -- at home, in the barber shop or wherever. Keeping things consistent is half the battle to having happy, well-behaved kids.

source: Sheknows Parenting


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The three or four-year-old who is outgoing takes to preschool like a duck to water and doesn’t need any gentle introduction. It may be quite different with a sensitive three-year-old who still feels closely attached to his parents.

If a parent leaves him at preschool the first day, he might not make a fuss right away. After a while he might miss his parent. He might become frightened. The next day he might not want to leave home.

Introduce preschool gradually

Most preschools introduce children to their programs gradually. This is particularly helpful for the shy or sensitive child. Parents can stay with their children for as long as they wish. For several days a parent might stay nearby while their child plays and then take her home again after a time. Each day the parent can stay for a longer period. Meanwhile, your child is building up attachments to the teacher and other children. These will give her a sense of security when her parent no longer stays.

Sometimes a child seems quite happy for several days, even after his parent has left him. Then he gets hurt and suddenly wants his mummy or daddy. In that case, the teacher can help the parents decide if one of them should come back for a number of days.

If you are staying around the preschool, it’s best to remain in the background. The idea is to let your child develop her own desire to enter the group, so that she forgets her need for you.

Think about your own feelings

Sometimes your anxiety is greater than your child’s. If you say goodbye three times over, with a worried expression, your child might think, ‘It looks as if something awful might happen if I stay here alone’.

It's natural for a tenderhearted parent to worry about leaving a small child for the first time. Let the preschool teacher, who often has a lot of experience, advise you.

Be firm

A child who starts with some genuine anxiety about separating from the parent can learn that protesting allows him to avoid the situation.

She might then progressively use this to avoid preschool. When a child becomes reluctant or fearful about returning to a preschool with understanding teachers, it is usually better for the parents to act quite confident and firm and explain that the teacher will look after her and that she will be fine.

It can sometimes help to have someone different take a reluctant child to preschool. In any case, the child should not be deceived. He should be told that he has become friends with the teacher and the other children. Tomorrow his parent will not be staying at preschool. The parent should say goodbye once, cheerfully, then leave.

In the long run, it’s better for children to outgrow their dependence than to give in to it. If a child’s terror is extreme, the situation should be discussed with a child mental health professional.

Here are some tips to help you and your child ease into the day-to-day practicalities of preschool.



Arrival and departure

Children’s Services regulations require parents and guardians to sign the child’s name and arrival time in a supplied book when children are dropped off. Parents also need to sign that they have picked up their child and at what time. This is a legal requirement for preschool.

Clothing
Comfortable, loose fitting clothing that doesn’t restrict your child’s movement is best for preschool. He'll need a hat for playing outside. It’s a good idea to check your child can handle zips and buttons so he can go to the toilet. See Dressing your toddler for more information.

Food

Some preschools ask you to bring fruit to share with the group; others prefer your child to eat their own snack. Some long-day care programs may ask parents to supply the child's lunch, other programs supply lunch. Ask your preschool for details. See How to pack a lunchbox for more information.

Illness record

Preschools must keep a formal written record of any medication your child needs. You will need to provide a written authority for this.
Problems

It’s a good idea to speak with preschool staff if any problems arise. Working things out quickly can prevent bigger issues.

Safety rules

All preschools have safety rules which parents need to know. These will include:

* who has permission to collect your child
* any out-of-bounds areas for children
* traffic issues, such as parking.

Sickness

Sick children are best kept at home, for their own benefit and so they don’t pass germs on to other children. If your child has an infectious illness it’s a good idea to let your preschool know so they can inform other parents.

Sunsmart

You need to supply a hat, because your child’s skin is more sensitive to UV radiation than adult skin. Preschools are responsible for providing shaded play areas and making sure children use sunscreen and hats.

It's best to avoid outdoor activities between 11 am and 3 pm in hot weather (and 4 pm in daylight savings). See Sun care for more information.
Toys from home

Each preschool has its own policy on whether children can bring toys from home. It’s best to check before your child packs his favourite teddy in his bag.

Parent participation

Preschools rely heavily on parents helping out. If you are able to help out, there are lots of opportunities to take part in the day-to-day activities or to be involved with preschool management.

Educational programs

Your preschool’s philosophy will be outlined in their information booklet. Details of the educational program will be displayed in the building and you can discuss this further with staff. You will also get a regular newsletter keeping you up-to-date with the current program.
Policies

Your preschool will have policies to deal with issues such as:

* fee payment
* managing behaviour
* asthma
* allergies.


This information should be on display within the preschool.

Fees

Fees and the way in which they are collected will vary from preschool to preschool. It’s a good idea to ask about your preschool’s policy ahead of time. Parents who hold a Commonwealth Health Care Card are eligible for a $250 annual preschool fee subsidy.

source: By Dr Benjamin Spock updated by Dr Robert Needlman

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Back To School-Prepare For Swine Flue

Parents might be feeling more anxious than usual as they send their children back to school this fall. After all, the previous academic year ended with a wave of school closings across the country, the declaration of an influenza pandemic, and fears that H1N1 (swine flu) would return with a vengeance this season.

But here’s the good news: Health and education officials at the local, state, and federal levels have spent the summer preparing for whatever the upcoming flu season may bring. And experts believe that H1N1 (swine flu) will not be any more potent than the seasonal flu we deal with every year. “I think the swine flu is going to be much milder than the regular flu,” says Dr. Kent Holtorf, M.D., of Holtorf Medical Group in Torrance and Foster City, Calif. “Likely there’s a lot more scare than there is substance.”

For now, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention is taking a wait-and-see approach. In a new set of guidelines released in early August, the CDC recommends that schools not rush to close their doors if some students have the flu. Rather, they are urged to carefully weigh the potential benefits of school dismissal against the social disruption it can cause. The recommendations are based on severity of the flu season — whether conditions are similar to or more severe than the conditions observed in spring 2009 H1N1 outbreak.

A vaccine for H1N1 is undergoing clinical trials and is tentatively scheduled to be available in mid-October. “I think the good news is that by the time the question really comes up in school season, there will be a vaccine out — and a large proportion of the population will have already gone through the disease,” says Dr. Stephen Berger, M.D., founder of the Global Infectious Disease and Epidemiology Network and director of geographic medicine at Tel Aviv Medical Centre in Israel. “Not all flu is susceptible to drugs, but this one is.”

In the meantime, here are a few steps you can take to help keep your children healthy and prepare for the season ahead.

Healthy Practices to Prevent Swine Flu

• Review good hygiene practices with your children. Remind them to wash their hands frequently and thoroughly, and to cough or sneeze into a tissue or the crook of their arm. Equip them with a travel-size bottle of hand sanitizer to take to school.
• The CDC recommends getting your family vaccinated for both seasonal flu and H1N1(they are separate vaccines). Priority groups for the H1N1 vaccine — different than those for the seasonal flu — include people ages 6 months to 24 years and people who take care of or live with children under 6 months old. Priority groups include people ages 6 months to 24 years, as well as caretakers of children under 6 months old. NOTE: Multi-dose vials of H1N1 vaccine will contain thimerosal, an antibacterial additive that contains mercury and is believed by some to be harmful to children. Single-dose syringes and inhaler vaccine products will be thimerosal-free and are recommended for young children and pregnant women.
• If your child is sick, keep him home for at least 24 hours after the fever has subsided without the use of fever-reducing medication.

If Flu Conditions Become More Severe

• Keep a child sick with flu at home for at least seven days, even if he or she feels better sooner. Those who are still sick after seven days should continue to stay home until at least 24 hours after symptoms have completely disappeared.
• If someone in your household is sick with the flu, keep all school-aged children home for five days from the time that person became sick. Monitor the children for signs of fever and other flu symptoms.

Contingency Plans in Case of School Closings

• Stay up-to-date on your school district’s pandemic or emergency plan.
• Determine whether your school plans to offer Web-based lessons or other forms of distance learning during an extended closure, and plan accordingly.
• Plan activities to keep your children engaged at home in the event of school closings. Create a stockpile of games, books, DVDs, craft projects, etc.
• Check with your employer ahead of time to find out if you will be able to stay home to care for sick family members or children who have been dismissed from school. If you can’t work from home, arrange for other child care.

source :Everyday Health

Recommended school responses for the 2009-2010 school year

Under conditions with similar severity as in spring 2009

* Stay home when sick:
Those with flu-like illness should stay home for at least 24 hours after they no longer have a fever, or signs of a fever, without the use of fever-reducing medicines. They should stay home even if they are using antiviral drugs. (For more information, see CDC Recommendations for the Amount of Time Persons with Influenza-Like Illness Should be Away from Others.)

* Separate ill students and staff:
Students and staff who appear to have flu-like illness should be sent to a room separate from others until they can be sent home. CDC recommends that they wear a surgical mask, if possible, and that those who care for ill students and staff wear protective gear such as a mask.

* Hand hygiene and respiratory etiquette:
The new recommendations emphasize the importance of the basic foundations of influenza prevention: stay home when sick, wash hands frequently with soap and water when possible, and cover noses and mouths with a tissue when coughing or sneezing (or a shirt sleeve or elbow if no tissue is available).

* Routine cleaning:
School staff should routinely clean areas that students and staff touch often with the cleaners they typically use. CDC does not believe any additional disinfection of environmental surfaces beyond the recommended routine cleaning is required.

* Early treatment of high-risk students and staff:
People at high risk for influenza complications who become ill with influenza-like illness should speak with their health care provider as soon as possible. Early treatment with antiviral medications is very important for people at high risk because it can prevent hospitalizations and deaths. People at high risk include those who are pregnant, have asthma or diabetes, have compromised immune systems, or have neuromuscular diseases.

* Consideration of selective school dismissal:
Although there are not many schools where all or most students are at high risk (for example, schools for medically fragile children or for pregnant students) a community might decide to dismiss such a school to better protect these high-risk students.

Under conditions of increased severity compared with spring 2009

CDC may recommend additional measures to help protect students and staff if global and national assessments indicate that influenza is causing more severe disease. In addition, local health and education officials may elect to implement some of these additional measures. Except for school dismissals, these strategies have not been scientifically tested. But CDC wants communities to have tools to use that may be the right measures for their community and circumstances.

* Active screening:
Schools should check students and staff for fever and other symptoms of flu when they get to school in the morning, separate those who are ill, and send them home as soon as possible. Throughout the day, staff should be vigilant in identifying students and other staff who appear ill.

* High-risk students and staff members stay home:
People at high-risk of flu complications should talk to their doctor about staying home from school when a lot of flu is circulating in the community. Schools should plan now for ways to continue educating students who stay home through instructional phone calls, homework packets, internet lessons, and other approaches.

* Students with ill household members stay home:
Students who have an ill household member should stay home for five days from the day the first household member got sick. This is the time period they are most likely to get sick themselves.

* Increase distance between people at schools:
CDC encourages schools to try innovative ways of separating students. These can be as simple as moving desks farther apart or canceling classes that bring together children from different classrooms.

* Extend the period for ill persons to stay home:
If influenza severity increases, people with flu-like illness should stay home for at least 7 days, even if they have no more symptoms. If people are still sick, they should stay home until 24 hours after they have no symptoms.

* School dismissals:
School and health officials should work closely to balance the risks of flu in their community with the disruption dismissals will cause in both education and the wider community. The length of time schools should be dismissed will vary depending on the type of dismissal as well as the severity and extent of illness. Schools that dismiss students should do so for five to seven calendar days and should reassess whether or not to resume classes after that period. Schools that dismiss students should remain open to teachers and staff so they can continue to provide instruction through other means.


Reactive dismissals might be appropriate when schools are not able to maintain normal functioning for example, when a significant number and proportion of students have documented fever while at school despite recommendations to keep ill children home.

Preemptive dismissals can be used proactively to decrease the spread of flu. CDC may recommend preemptive school dismissals if the flu starts to cause severe disease in a significantly larger proportion of those affected.
Deciding on a course of action

CDC and its partners will continuously look for changes in the severity of influenza-like illness and will share what is learned with state and local agencies. However, states and local communities can expect to see a lot of differences in disease burden across the country.

Every state and community has to balance a variety of objectives to determine their best course of action to help decrease the spread of influenza.
Decision-makers should explicitly identify and communicate their objectives which might be one or more of the following:

1. protecting overall public health by reducing community transmission;
2. reducing transmission in students and school staff; and
3. protecting people with high-risk conditions.

Some strategies can have negative consequences in addition to their potential benefits. In the particular case of school dismissals, decision-makers also must consider and balance additional factors:
(a) how to ensure students continue to learn;
(2) how to provide an emotionally and physically safe place for students; and
(3) how to reduce demands on local health care services. The following questions can help begin discussions and lead to decisions at the state and local levels.

source: CDC H1N1